Et Bedre Liv Etter Psykisk Vold

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Listen følger bokens ti deler. Innen hver del er kildene gruppert i bøker og i artikler, rapporter og nettressurser. Oppføringene er sortert alfabetisk etter forfatterens etternavn.

Bakerst finner du et alfabetisk register over alle bøker. Verk som dekker flere tema er så langt det er mulig plassert der hovedinnholdet hører hjemme. Bøker markert med ★ er de jeg særlig vil anbefale.

Noen ganger finnes en norskspråklig versjon av boken jeg refererer til, men jeg oppgir den utgaven jeg har lest eller lyttet til. Alle lenker er verifisert per april 2026.

Del I

Når brikkene faller på plass (Dag 1–12)

Hva psykisk vold er, manipulasjonsmekanismer, kroppens og hjernens umiddelbare reaksjoner.

Bøker

  • Bancroft, Lundy (2002). Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. Berkley Books.
  • Durvasula, Ramani (2024). It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People. Penguin Audio.
  • Herman, Judith L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence. From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. Basic Books.
  • Isdal, Per (2018). Meningen med volden. Kommuneforlaget.
  • ★Kirsebom, Harald Vestgöte (2025). Uelskbar. Kagge Forlag.
  • Maté, Gabor (2019). When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress. Penguin.
  • Maté, Gabor (2024). The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture. Penguin.
  • Morningstar, Dana (2019). The Narcissist’s Playbook. Morningstar Media.
  • Orvos-Tóth, Noémi (2025). Inherited Fate. Penguin.

Del II

Bli kjent med deg selv igjen (Dag 13–25)

Skyld, skam, selvsabotasje, behov, grenser, ivaretakelse av egen energi.

Bøker

  • Brown, Brené (2021). Atlas of the Heart. Penguin Audio.
  • LePera, Nicole (2021). How to Do the Work. Harper Wave.
  • Masten, Ann S. (2014). Ordinary Magic: Resilience in Development. Guilford Press.
  • Neff, Kristin (2011). Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. HarperCollins.
  • Nguyen, Joseph (2022). Don’t Believe Everything You Think. Independently Published.
  • Tolle, Eckhart (2004). The Power of Now. Namaste Publishing.

Del III

Å forstå voldsutøveren (Dag 26–40)

Reaktive og strategiske voldsutøvere, personlighetsforstyrrelser, narsissisme, psykopati, machiavellisme, sadisme, den mørke triade.

Bøker

  • Arabi, Shahida (2016). Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform.
  • ★Engen Nilsen, Dag Øyvind (2019). Psykopat-testen. Kagge.
  • Hare, Robert (1999). Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the Psychopaths Among Us. Guilford Press.
  • MacKenzie, Jackson (2015). Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition): Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People. Berkley.
  • Raine, Adrian (2013). The Anatomy of Violence: The Biological Roots of Crime. Pantheon.
  • Salerno, Peter (2024). The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism. Peter Salerno.

Del IV

Teknikker, taktikker og strategier (Dag 41–110)

Hersketeknikker, manipulasjonstaktikker, gaslighting, DARVO, isolasjon, økonomisk vold, fortsettelsesvold.

Bøker

  • Davenport, Barrie (2016). Signs of Emotional Abuse: How to Recognize the Patterns of Narcissism, Manipulation, and Control in Your Love Relationship. Bold Living Press.
  • ★Nordhelle, Grethe (2009). Manipulasjon. Forståelse og håndtering. Gyldendal Akademisk.
  • Salerno, Peter (2025). Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance: Healing From An Abusive Relationship With A Disordered Personality. Peter Salerno.
  • ★Sollund, Sigrid (2017). Hersketeknikker. Nyttige og nådeløse. Kagge Forlag.
  • Thomas, Shannon (2016). Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse. MAST Publishing House.
  • Walker, Lenore E. (1979). The Battered Woman. Harper & Row.

Artikler, rapporter og nettressurser

Del V

Å bygge et nytt fundament (Dag 111–151)

Gjenoppbygging, vaner, grensesetting, håndtering av narsissister, beskytte energien.

Bøker

  • Clear, James (2018). Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones. Avery.
  • Cloud, Henry og John Townsend (1992). Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life. Zondervan.
  • Fogg, B.J. (2019). Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  • Hill, Napoleon (2019). Successful Habits. Macmillan.
  • Siegel, Daniel (2011). The Neurobiology of «We». Macmillan Audio.
  • Tawwab, Nedra Glover (2021). Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. TarcherPerigee.

Del VI

Kropp og sinn etter vold (Dag 152–203)

Traumereaksjoner, C-PTSD, kroppslige plager, mestringsstrategier.

Bøker

  • ★Clayton, Ingrid (2025). Fawning. Penguin Audio.
  • Hill, Linda (2022). Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD (4 Books in 1). Peak Publish LLC.
  • Levine, Peter A. (1997). Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books.
  • ★Løno, Annette med Færø, Torkil (2025). Vagusnerven. Kroppens skjulte superkraft. Frisk forlag.
  • Ranganath, Charan (2024). Why We Remember: Unlocking Memory’s Power to Hold on to What Matters. Random House Audio.
  • Sapolsky, Robert M. (2004). Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers (3. utg.). Holt Paperbacks.
  • ★Syvertsen, Marte Roa (2025). Hjernen. En biografi: om hvordan livet setter seg i hodet, og alt du kan gjøre for å ta styringen. Bonnier Norsk Forlag.
  • ★van der Kolk, Bessel (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.
  • Walker, Pete (2018). Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Tantor Media.

Del VII

Å stå stødig i eget liv (Dag 204–291)

Nervesystem, egenomsorg, terapi, følelser, tilknytning, nye relasjoner.

Bøker

  • Barrett, Lisa Feldman (2017). How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  • Brown, Brené (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Avery.
  • Cacioppo, John T. og William Patrick (2008). Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection. W. W. Norton.
  • Dana, Deb (2018). The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation. W. W. Norton.
  • ★Dragland, Annette (2025). Hele Deg. Colibri Books.
  • Huffington, Arianna (2014). Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder. Harmony.
  • Kabat-Zinn, Jon (1990). Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Delta.
  • ★Kolby, Marit (2022). Hva og når skal vi spise. Frisk Forlag.
  • Lembke, Anna (2021). Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence. Dutton.
  • Levine, Amir og Rachel S. F. Heller (2010). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love. TarcherPerigee.
  • Mikulincer, Mario og Phillip R. Shaver (2016). Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change (2. utg.). Guilford Press.
  • Pang, Alex Soojung-Kim (2016). Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less. Basic Books.
  • Rosenberg, Marshall B. (2003). Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. PuddleDancer Press.
  • Shapiro, Francine (2017). Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy: Basic Principles, Protocols, and Procedures (3. utg.). Guilford Press.
  • ★Stiegler, Jan Reidar, Aksel Inge Sinding og Leslie Greenberg (2019). Klok på følelser: det følelsene prøver å fortelle deg. Gyldendal Norsk Forlag.
  • Søberg, Susanna (2022). Winter Swimming: The Nordic Way Towards a Healthier and Happier Life. Macmillan.
  • Walker, Matthew (2017). Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams. Scribner.
  • Wampold, Bruce E. og Zac E. Imel (2015). The Great Psychotherapy Debate: The Evidence for What Makes Psychotherapy Work (2. utg.). Routledge.
  • Yalom, Irvin D. og Molyn Leszcz (2020). The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy (6. utg.). Basic Books.

Artikler, rapporter og nettressurser

Del VIII

Neste steg til et bedre liv (Dag 292–314)

Posttraumatisk vekst, mening, drømmer, omgivelser.

Bøker

  • Brown, Brené (2018). Dare to Lead. Random House Audio.
  • Frankl, Viktor E. (1946/2006). Man’s Search for Meaning. Beacon Press.
  • Hawkins, David (2006). Power vs. Force. Veritas Publishing.
  • Keltner, Dacher (2023). Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life. Penguin Press.
  • ★Nordhelle, Grethe og Ujagar Singh Sakhi (2021). Å leve i pakt med Moder jord. Cappelen Damm.
  • Paivio, Allan (1986). Mental Representations: A Dual Coding Approach. Oxford University Press.
  • Peterson, Christopher og Martin E. P. Seligman (2004). Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification. Oxford University Press.
  • Tedeschi, Richard G. og Lawrence G. Calhoun (2004). Posttraumatic Growth: Conceptual Foundations and Empirical Evidence. Lawrence Erlbaum.
  • Waldinger, Robert J. og Marc S. Schulz (2023). The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness. Simon & Schuster.

Del IX

Den praktiske delen (Dag 315–358)

Praktiske sikkerhetstiltak, fortsettelsesvold, barn, hjelpeapparat, rettssaker.

Bøker

  • ★Berg, Anniken (2024). Bonusfamilieguiden. Cappelen Damm.
  • Eddy, Bill (2014). BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns. Unhooked Books.
  • Gray, Peter (2013). Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life. Basic Books.
  • Katz, Emma (2022). Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives. Oxford University Press.
  • Rosenberg, Marshall B. (2003). Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. PuddleDancer Press. (Se Del VII.)
  • Stark, Evan (2023). Children of Coercive Control. Oxford University Press.

Del X

Veien videre (Dag 359–365)

Aksept, fellesskap, eierskap til egen historie.

Bøker

  • Angelou, Maya (1969). I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. Random House.
  • Eger, Edith (2017). The Choice: Embrace the Possible. Scribner.
  • Herman, Judith L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery. Basic Books. (Se Del I.)

Alfabetisk litteraturregister

Samlet oversikt over alle bøker som er nevnt ovenfor, ordnet alfabetisk etter forfatterens etternavn.

  • Angelou, Maya (1969). I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. Random House.
  • Arabi, Shahida (2016). Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare. CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform.
  • Bancroft, Lundy (2002). Why Does He Do That?. Berkley Books.
  • Barrett, Lisa Feldman (2017). How Emotions Are Made. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  • ★Berg, Anniken (2024). Bonusfamilieguiden. Cappelen Damm.
  • Brown, Brené (2012). Daring Greatly. Avery.
  • Brown, Brené (2018). Dare to Lead. Random House Audio.
  • Brown, Brené (2021). Atlas of the Heart. Penguin Audio.
  • Cacioppo, John T. og William Patrick (2008). Loneliness. W. W. Norton.
  • ★Clayton, Ingrid (2025). Fawning. Penguin Audio.
  • Clear, James (2018). Atomic Habits. Avery.
  • Cloud, Henry og John Townsend (1992). Boundaries. Zondervan.
  • Dana, Deb (2018). The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy. W. W. Norton.
  • Davenport, Barrie (2016). Signs of Emotional Abuse. Bold Living Press.
  • ★Dragland, Annette (2025). Hele Deg. Colibri Books.
  • Durvasula, Ramani (2024). It’s Not You. Penguin Audio.
  • Eddy, Bill (2014). BIFF. Unhooked Books.
  • Eger, Edith (2017). The Choice. Scribner.
  • ★Engen Nilsen, Dag Øyvind (2019). Psykopat-testen. Kagge.
  • Fogg, B.J. (2019). Tiny Habits. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  • Frankl, Viktor E. (1946/2006). Man’s Search for Meaning. Beacon Press.
  • Gray, Peter (2013). Free to Learn. Basic Books.
  • Hare, Robert (1999). Without Conscience. Guilford Press.
  • Hawkins, David (2006). Power vs. Force. Veritas Publishing.
  • Herman, Judith L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery. Basic Books.
  • Hill, Linda (2022). Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD (4 Books in 1). Peak Publish LLC.
  • Hill, Napoleon (2019). Successful Habits. Macmillan.
  • Huffington, Arianna (2014). Thrive. Harmony.
  • Isdal, Per (2018). Meningen med volden. Kommuneforlaget.
  • Kabat-Zinn, Jon (1990). Full Catastrophe Living. Delta.
  • Katz, Emma (2022). Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives. Oxford University Press.
  • Keltner, Dacher (2023). Awe. Penguin Press.
  • ★Kirsebom, Harald Vestgöte (2025). Uelskbar. Kagge Forlag.
  • ★Kolby, Marit (2022). Hva og når skal vi spise. Frisk Forlag.
  • Lembke, Anna (2021). Dopamine Nation. Dutton.
  • LePera, Nicole (2021). How to Do the Work. Harper Wave.
  • Levine, Amir og Rachel S. F. Heller (2010). Attached. TarcherPerigee.
  • Levine, Peter A. (1997). Waking the Tiger. North Atlantic Books.
  • ★Løno, Annette med Færø, Torkil (2025). Vagusnerven. Kroppens skjulte superkraft. Frisk forlag.
  • MacKenzie, Jackson (2015). Psychopath Free (Expanded Edition). Berkley.
  • Masten, Ann S. (2014). Ordinary Magic. Guilford Press.
  • Maté, Gabor (2019). When the Body Says No. Penguin.
  • Maté, Gabor (2024). The Myth of Normal. Penguin.
  • Mikulincer, Mario og Phillip R. Shaver (2016). Attachment in Adulthood (2. utg.). Guilford Press.
  • Morningstar, Dana (2019). The Narcissist’s Playbook. Morningstar Media.
  • Neff, Kristin (2011). Self-Compassion. HarperCollins.
  • Nguyen, Joseph (2022). Don’t Believe Everything You Think. Independently Published.
  • ★Nordhelle, Grethe (2009). Manipulasjon. Forståelse og håndtering. Gyldendal Akademisk.
  • ★Nordhelle, Grethe og Ujagar Singh Sakhi (2021). Å leve i pakt med Moder jord. Cappelen Damm.
  • Orvos-Tóth, Noémi (2025). Inherited Fate. Penguin.
  • Paivio, Allan (1986). Mental Representations. Oxford University Press.
  • Pang, Alex Soojung-Kim (2016). Rest. Basic Books.
  • Peterson, Christopher og Martin E. P. Seligman (2004). Character Strengths and Virtues. Oxford University Press.
  • Porges, Stephen (2017). The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory. W. W. Norton.
  • Raine, Adrian (2013). The Anatomy of Violence. Pantheon.
  • Ranganath, Charan (2024). Why We Remember. Random House Audio.
  • Rosenberg, Marshall B. (2003). Nonviolent Communication. PuddleDancer Press.
  • Salerno, Peter (2024). The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism. Peter Salerno.
  • Salerno, Peter (2025). Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance. Peter Salerno.
  • Sapolsky, Robert M. (2004). Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers (3. utg.). Holt Paperbacks.
  • Shapiro, Francine (2017). Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy (3. utg.). Guilford Press.
  • Siegel, Daniel (2011). The Neurobiology of «We». Macmillan Audio.
  • ★Sollund, Sigrid (2017). Hersketeknikker. Nyttige og nådeløse. Kagge Forlag.
  • Stark, Evan (2023). Children of Coercive Control. Oxford University Press.
  • ★Stiegler, Jan Reidar, Aksel Inge Sinding og Leslie Greenberg (2019). Klok på følelser. Gyldendal Norsk Forlag.
  • ★Syvertsen, Marte Roa (2025). Hjernen. En biografi. Bonnier Norsk Forlag.
  • Søberg, Susanna (2022). Winter Swimming. Macmillan.
  • Tawwab, Nedra Glover (2021). Set Boundaries, Find Peace. TarcherPerigee.
  • Tedeschi, Richard G. og Lawrence G. Calhoun (2004). Posttraumatic Growth. Lawrence Erlbaum.
  • Thomas, Shannon (2016). Healing from Hidden Abuse. MAST Publishing House.
  • Tolle, Eckhart (2004). The Power of Now. Namaste Publishing.
  • ★van der Kolk, Bessel (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Viking.
  • Waldinger, Robert J. og Marc S. Schulz (2023). The Good Life. Simon & Schuster.
  • Walker, Lenore E. (1979). The Battered Woman. Harper & Row.
  • Walker, Matthew (2017). Why We Sleep. Scribner.
  • Walker, Pete (2018). Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. Tantor Media.
  • Wampold, Bruce E. og Zac E. Imel (2015). The Great Psychotherapy Debate (2. utg.). Routledge.
  • Yalom, Irvin D. og Molyn Leszcz (2020). The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy (6. utg.). Basic Books.